Some people...

Some people always try to bring you down. But the last four years of me doing music for a living has really helped me to have a sense of humor about it. In the beginning, I got lots of mean messages... people telling me I would never be good enough so I should give up... or that I was ugly or fat or couldn't sing... just rude things like that only said out of hatred.

Things that they would most likely never say to me in person... but behind the mask of anonymity, they leave no punch pulled.

But recently, I have been really blessed to be getting so many wonderful messages and kind notes from people, that I try to ignore and even laugh at the mean-spirited ones that come in. I get so many sweet, kind, loving messages these days - and I know that I should really make a better habit of thanking every person individually.... which is difficult, but I really try to let people know that it does mean a lot to me.

... but I wish I could say that the mean things never bother me: but sometimes a mean letter or comment will catch me when I'm having a bad day or I'm frustrated. And I wonder, what kind of person does something like that? I know that it's not personal... they can't actually despise me because they don't actually KNOW me. But why take the time to write to me telling me how much they dislike everything about me? WHY BOTHER?! Don't they have something better to do? In the time they spend trying to hurt my feelings, they could be trying to teach themselves a second language, plant a tree, play basketball, call a friend... but instead they spend that time of their life agonizing about how much something about me bothers them.

Well, I know this is the tip of the iceberg as so to speak.

It's just on my mind because a little while ago, I was so happy to see a new user on my site... I couldn't wait to see who they were! I love getting to know my fans... by the "10 things about me" question when they sign up... and learning where they are from... seeing their pictures. I have 36 users on my site now - and each one is so precious to me because they actually cared enough to sign up and download my music.

So, when I saw the 37th user... I thought "YES!" - and I clicked their profile to learn more about them.

...... and it was mostly blank except for a few mean things directed at me..... saying that they loathed everything about me.

And this could have really bummed me out.... but then I remembered the other 36 people who were so kind to sign up.... and they've kept me smiling :-)

So, thank you for taking the time to read this message and for visiting my site. I really do appreciate you spending your time here. If you really dislike me and my music - that's ok! If you try to please everyone, you will loose sight of who you are in the process. So, I'll keep being me and you will keep being you.

But if you do like my music... thank you. The kind messages I get really do help me make it through the rough days as I'm tackling this crazy, crazy dream. So, if I haven't thanked you enough yet, thank you. :-)

Best wishes,

Candice